[tale of violence elided]
Kathryn Aegis:
: Again, I am sorry for your bad experiences as a child, and I think
: that most of us can share the same type of story. I do not, however,
: equate that experience with general childhood disputes.
Can it be separated from them?
: The learning of basic negotiation skills is a vital component to any
: child's development, to the extent that most childhood development
: books will devote at least a chapter to it.
Hm. I wish I'd learned better to negotiate with adults.
Still can't do it comfortably. I'm good at retreat, though.
: As for your 'obvious fact' above, I would ask that you provide some
: definite support for that statement, outside of your personal
: experience, in order to consider it a general truism.
Mark Grant:
: Uh, my experience, my friends' experiences, the experiences of those on
: this list... the only people I've met who didn't have similar tales to
: tell were either home-schooled or went to expensive private schools.
I feel left out. (I usually feel left out, dammit.)
I never got beat up, scrawny though I was.
In third or fourth grade I once fought Peter Benesch one-on-one.
(Gave him a black eye, or so he claimed; I never saw the shiner.)
Fifth/sixth grade (different town) was marginally worse.
On one occasion during recess my peers pushed me into a "fight" with
a classmate's kid sister.
On my way home a neighborhood bully tried on two occasions to pick
a fight, but I baffled him by not knowing the conventions. I suppose
he decided I was a sissy not worth scuffing his shoes.
And - I almost forgot - while waiting for the school bus in the morning,
I once stood by impotent while bullies made my sister lick spit off the
pavement.
After that I was in an elite experimental school attached to the university,
where violence was simply infra dig.
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