On 8/20/99, at 2:33 PM, Robert J. Bradbury wrote:
>Do you want to be killed because you don't eat the eye-of-the-sheep
>when it is offered to you at a dinner in some part of Arabia because
>you don't realize it is an honor?
A gentleman is someone who is never *accidentally* rude. I hope all of us on the list would strive to be gentle (at least when posting to the list).
I wonder how many of the comments that Kathryn says drove women away were intended to be as offensive as they were apparently perceived.
For travellers, writers, and omnivorous readers, I recommend:
_Kiss, Bow, or Shake Hands: How to Do Business in Sixty Countries_ http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1558504443
It includes cultural overviews, behavior styles, negotiating techniques, protocol, and business practices. (Indonesians often consult astrologers, and delay signing papers until a "lucky" day arrives. Romanians shake hands constantly.) The amazon link has pointers to several other books on similar subjects.
On a related topic, there are several equivalent books for religions practiced in the US. The one I've seen is --
_How to Be a Perfect Stranger: A Guide to Etiquette in Other People's Religious Ceremonies_ http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1879045397
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