David Lubkin writes:
>A gentleman is someone who is never *accidentally* rude. I hope all
>of us on the list would strive to be gentle (at least when posting to the
Well put, David.
>I wonder how many of the comments that Kathryn says drove women away
>were intended to be as offensive as they were apparently perceived.
One way to tell--how angry the person gets once offense is mentioned. Persons who do not mean to give offense generally want to know how offense was taken and would usually want to try not to do so again. Within reason, of course. Sometimes offense is taken no matter what you do, but I think that most women that would be attracted to a list like this have some amount of experience in the world.