> -----Original Message-----
> From: owner-extropians@extropy.com
> [mailto:owner-extropians@extropy.com]On Behalf Of ABlainey@aol.com
> Sent: Thursday, July 06, 2000 8:52 PM
>
> I've heard this kind of story a few times. The same deal
> happened to one
> of my Aunts. She fell in love with her first serious boyfriend,
> got married,
> had kids a dog etc. They always seemed like the perfect family,
> they had a
> nice car, very nice house and moved to a bigger and better house
> every couple
> of years. They were the envy of the whole family.
> Then after about 13 years of marriage she left because she
> hadn't lived
> and wanted more out of life.
> Ironically, she remarried in about a year and now has kids, a dog etc
> etc.
>
> I think there is a moral in there somewhere. Personally I love being
> married and this is my second time. My marriage is far from
> perfect, but it
> certainly is fun.
Maybe the moral is something like this: let people develop and grow as they
will rather than trying to squash them into pre-packaged roles; life is
dynamic--things that stay always the same are lifeless, so let change occur
rather than trying to keep people and relationships always the same; when a
relationship that has been good begins to be deteriorate and become stifling
for one or another of the parties, change it, or let it go; when a
relationship must end, think of it as a lesson learned or as growth rather
than as a failure. (these things are easy to say, but they don't seem to be
easy for people to put into practice)
Bonnie
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