FWD (DS) Re: ADHD crimes against boys - PRIVATE

From: Terry W. Colvin (fortean1@mindspring.com)
Date: Tue Jun 10 2003 - 09:39:33 MDT

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    Rick Dill is father to Jan Dill, 30 years old with Down Syndrome.

    Mike,

    Your experience is a great match for my oldest son. He never was put on
    drugs but he was abused by fellow students and the occasional teacher
    who found him easy to pick on. He left high school with only one
    friend. In college and later as a grunt in the army he recovered .. now
    is married, writing computer games, and socially OK. His IQ is much
    higher than mine. His life functionality is yet to be measured because
    that takes many years.

    Your view doesn't fit well into the world of DS and ADHD. My daughter
    (DS, high achieving and a pioneer) is certainly borderline if not full
    ADHD. She learned to be tough and think for herself (even if a little
    simply). What would you expect from two hyper parents.

    It also doesn't fit the S.O.[Special Olympics] gymnast, Chris, I trained
    (off meds) in the little team that I set up so my own kid would have
    gymnastics. Chris was at the extreme but wonderful. I have incredible
    pride (as he does) for his achievements that went on in spite of me.

    Eventually his behaviours became more than even his (truly loving)
    parents could cope with and he was moved to Pathfinder Village where he
    was able to develop into a pretty functional young man (as of last time
    I saw him).

    ADHD is not something simple and maybe it is far over-diagnosed. Hey, I
    got through without being diagnosed dislexic and that is one of my
    advantages in life. I look at things differently than other people and
    sometimes that is really valuable.

    Your story, while interesting to me, seems pretty irrelevant in dealing
    with kids with DS who have extreme problems. Simple problems .. now
    that is just developing some character and spirit of independence and I
    have to support that strongly.

    You wrote (among other things): >>>>>>>>>>>> In fifth grade I spent more
    days in detention than not. I had C and D grades. I was forced to learn
    at the same dull and snails pace as the rest of the idiots[WATCH THAT
    WORDING] and was bored out of my skull. Misbehaved to the point of
    wrestling matches with my teacher. Got corporal punishment from the
    principal (ruler on the wrist). <<<<<<<<

    Rick ... Dad to 30 year old Jan (DS, maybe ADHD and AML)

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