Re: Raising kids [was Re: Freedom or death? ]

Darren Reynolds (
Sat, 16 Aug 1997 19:04:39 +0100

At 22:28 13/08/97 -0400, Dan Clemmensen wrote:
>My 14-year-old reminded me of an incident
>that happened when she was four. She threw a sharp object at
>her younger sister. Apparently, I saw this and first spoke
>sharply to her (safety first: I DO yell at kids when there is
>imminent danger.) I then explained that the knife could
>seriously damage the sister, and asked her to predict what the
>knife might do. she wasn't sure, so I used the knife to stab
>through a piece of cardboard, and asked her to make a prediction
>about the possible effect on her sister. Apparently, she really
>got it that time.

A neat tale. Thanks, Dan. I guess this approach takes patience - a skill
I've been trying to master for the past ten minutes, but don't seem to be
able to get the hang of. No, seriously, it sounds like a sensible approach.