Re: Controlling the male sex drive

Doug Jones (
Mon, 28 Jun 1999 19:20:05 -0700

Dave Sill wrote:
> Doug Jones wrote:
> > Just think of it as good sweaty fun noisy exercise that will extend
> > your life- very extropian indeed. What you probably need is better
> > sex, not less ;)
> I didn't say I didn't enjoy sex. I said I didn't like being
> dominated by my hormones. I'm a happily married man (18 years). If
> I could flip a switch and not have to evaluate every female I see
> as "doable" or not--even though I have no intention whatsoever of
> actually "doing" her--I'd be happier than I am now. If I could see
> a pretty woman and not stare at her, that'd be great. If I could
> concentrate on the task at hand in the presence of women, rather
> than fantasize about them, I'd be happier.

There's an apocryphal story about Oliver Wendell Holmes, while in his 90s, walking down the street with a friend. They see a pretty girl passing the other way, Holmes stops after she goes by watching her with appreciation, and sighs "Ah, to be 75 again..."

I guess I'm one of those lucky guys who can appreciate without losing my main thread of thought. All kidding aside, perhaps just a bit of voluntary behavior modification on your part would achieve your goal of reduced distraction without more invasive chemical intervention.

> > As for not siring more kids, just get a vasectomy as I did a little
> > while ago- just keep the icepacks on there for a few days and you'll
> > do fine...
> Again, that's not the point. I'm aware of the contraception options.
> The point was that since I'm done with the reproductive stage of
> my life, I wouldn't mind being done also with the basic urges that
> are programmed into me to encourage me to reproduce. I.e., I'd like
> to be in better control of my mind and body.
> Surely that's Extropian.

Sure- but I'm in the hedonist faction of extropianism- I enjoy ogling women (discreetly of course), and carrying the energy back to my lover. I won't claim that this is the *best* way, or that it's appropriate for you, but it sure is more fun than turning it off.

Part of what keeps me working so hard for cheap spaceflight is the thought of sex in zero gee :)

Doug Jones, Freelance Rocket Plumber