It seems we're close to agreement. I don't know that I can talk for
everyone, but my sense is that in general it's easier to learn "Don't do
that while you're upset." than it is "Don't let it bother you". However, I'm
with you on the deeper point: Although I think the latter may be more
difficult, certainly it's more rewarding. Once you've achieved a high level
of control over your thinking and the feeling it produces, you don't have to
battle with yourself everytime someone says something potentially upsetting.
Max
Max More, Ph.D.
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