On 2001.12.10, Robert J. Bradbury <bradbury@aeiveos.com> wrote:
>
> [BTW, there is no offense taken to the questions. I'm
> not easily offended and don't mind providing personal
> information if it helps contribute to your picture of
> my experiences and therefore my POV.]
Thanks.
[... Robert's responses snipped ...]
My interpretations of your responses lead me to believe that
you have no reasons to believe that you're not your parents
biological child, and even if you weren't, it wouldn't matter
because they raised you as their own child regardless.
In that same vein, if your girlfriend (or wife, whatever
the case may be) told you that she was "carrying your child"
and you had doubts, and you felt you had no reasons to doubt
her, but later on found out (through testing) that you were
not the actual biological parent of the child, then what would
you do? Would it matter? Suppose you'd spent the last N years
raising the child as though he/she were your own.
You responded to John:
> The "Human Sexuality" psych course I took circa '89 at the U.W.
> had an interesting discussion of a tribe in India where the village
> elders take the adolescents of the tribe, collect them into a "camp"
> for a few months and have them all sleep with all of the other potential
> mates in the village. At the same time they are actually trained to
> become good sex partners. Interestingly enough the village has a
> phenomenally low divorce rate (< 5%(?)). I suspect it is because one
> learns who the right partner may be for you and the idea that "the grass
> may be greener elsewhere" may be, to a large degree, purged from
> the meme set of individuals having this experience.
Interesting approach to eliminate the jealousy meme, for sure.
No reason to be jealous of someone if they're sleeping with
someone because you've slept with everyone they have, too.
Jealousy definitely appears (feels?) to be something that comes
about from inclusion/exclusion.
-- Dossy
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