"O'Regan, Emlyn" wrote:
> The problem is that you have fight-or-flight responses without deciding to.
Sure, and I ride them out and maintain control, I don't give in to them.
> If you have such, and decide not to get angry, you supress the anger, and
> that is stress. Apparently it is quite healthy to get angry every now and
> then, because lowers your stress levels.
Um, who said anything about suppressing anger? I was talking about not letting it control you, and managing it, not suppressing it. Even if you do get angry, why attack someone? Who is in control, you or your hormones?
> I've been trying to work out how to do this in some kind of useful manner. I
> don't normally get angry, but I know that the stress builds because of this.
> The problem is that I find the expression of anger distasteful, which many
> here might identify with.
Just let it wash over you and let it flow out, feel it but maintain a
clear head. Works for me.
Observe it but don't succumb to it.
> Maybe I've got to play sport. Exercise is supposed to be wonderful for
> stress, I guess I've got to find time. But when you're faced with decisions
> like "Either I read another chapter of Hofstader, or I go and play indoor
> soccer" - well, what would you do?
Do both on different days?
> What I really need is a little bubble of no-time where I can sit and read
> for as long as I like without impacting on the rest of my life.
Oh sure, and what makes you think you'd ever leave it? I know I wouldn't.
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