>    IAN: A gets larger with reference to B: A
>    observes that B is smaller and therefore 
>    he himself is larger than B. B observes 
>    that A is smaller and therefore that
>    he is larger than A. Pretty simple.
>  
> 
>    This is what A sees, his ruler and B's:
> 
>                          ___________
>     Their ruler:         |||||||||||
>                          |_________|
>                ____________________
>     My ruler:  | | | | | | | | | | |
>                |___________________|
> 
> 
>    Please notice that "my" ruler is larger.
>    B also sees "my" (i.e., his) ruler larger.
>    This entirely answers your latest rebuttal.
No, it doesn't.  Because your "larger" rulers are not larger than "self"
within any reference frame; from BOTH reference frames the "larger" ruler
is not positive; it is zero, because it is self.
A cannot measure A to be non-zero.  B can, but B measures A to be smaller,
not larger.  Similarly, B cannot measure B to be non-zero.  A can, but A
measures B to be smaller.
Larger is not the same as +.  Larger can be 0.  Unfortunately, summing
negatives and zeroes does not get you back to zero, it just makes you more
negative.
>    IAN: This is what the charts say 
>    for A, which is reading down from A:
> 
>              A  B
>             ______
>          A | 0  - |
>            |      |
>          B | -  0 |
>            --------
> 
>    A: I stayed the same size to me
>    (0), and B got smaller (-) to me.
> 
>              A  B
>             ______
>          A | 0  + |
>            |      |
>          B | +  0 |
>            --------
> 
>    A: I stayed the same size to me, 
>    but I got larger relative to B.
A did not get larger relative to B.  Ask B.  He'll tell you.  A got
SMALLER.  That's what it means when you say "A gets larger relative to B:"
B measures A to be larger.  B does NOT measure A to be larger, however. 
You keep falling back on this completely false presumption and claiming
that you've answered my point already.  So long as you continue to insist
that A is large relative to B, you make it clear that you have no clear
grasp of the situation at hand.
> >When they get moving, B's meter stick looks to be 0.8m long.  So, you want
> >to say A's meter stick is growing?  Relative to what?  Not B: B perceives
> >A's meter stick to be SHRINKING, not growing.  What is A growing relative
> >to? 
> 
>    IAN: A is growing relative to B. You 
>    see, A observes B to be smaller, but
>    has A gotten larger than B? The only 
>    way for A to know is look at B. If B 
>    is smaller, then A has gotten larger.
>    This is because size is relative.
When you say A has gotten larger, then that means that in some frame of
reference, the A-0 partial difference is greater than before.  This isn't
true, so this argument is unsound.
>    IAN: From A's reference frame his ruler 
>    is as long as (actually) 2 of B's rulers,
>    if A's rulers is twice as long as B's.
Here you're getting yourself confused.  A is 0 to A, because A does not
use B's ruler.  *B* uses B's ruler.  When we make up these charts, we
write down the partial difference between each relevant entity *as
measured by one entitiy* on the row in question.  B's ruler is not used on
A's row.  B's ruler is used on B's row.  See the difference? 
>    IAN: A sees B, A measures A relative 
>    to A's observation of B, A does NOT 
>    measure A relative to how B sees A. 
So now we're back to
   A  B
A  +  0
B  0  +
A measures itself in terms of B's ruler, and finds itself large.  Oops... 
Oh, wait, no.. that's not it, B measures A and finds A large.  Wait, no,
that's flat out wrong.  B measures A and finds A SMALL compared to 0. 
What was it again?  *I* know!  A measures A in terms of ITSELF ONLY and
gets 0, remember? This is why you have that diagonal line of zeros down
all your identity charts.  A does not measure itself in terms of B until
after we have written out the whole chart.  The individual values on the
chart are PARTIAL differences, for which A uses only A's ruler, and not
B's.  A will eventually find the NET identity in terms of A, B, C, etc.
but the partial differences which are summed do not use multiple
perspectives.  A measures A in terms of itself, and gets 0.  It measures B
in terms of itself, and gets -C.  B does the same, getting 0 for itself
and -C for A.  B does not create a partial difference of itself in terms
of A; this only takes place when we sum the chart. 
A is larger than B only in A's perspective, but in A's perspective A is
always 0.
>    IAN: I've now answered this about 15x now.
Yes, and wrongly every time, which is why I continue to press the point.
A is not large according to A: A is 0 relative to A.  You cannot say that
A is larger than 0 according to either A or B.  Therefore, any chart you
propose which had a positive sign in it is necessarily flawed: A never
grows relative to anything, it DOES shrink relative to B.  This special
case violates your principles, which is why I propose it.
>    The implicit phrasing of the charts is a 
>    little confusing. But this is cleared up.
>    As we can see, if A appears larger than
>    B, then A is said to be larger than B.
Nice use of the passive voice.  A says that it is larger than B, but only
in that A is 0 and B is negative.  B says the same thing about A.  So
nobody claims to observe any positive numbers at all: A is 0 to A and
negative to B, B is 0 to B and negative to A.  No positive numbers means
no way to add back up to zero.
Now, try this again, and this time remember that just because A is larger
than B according to itself does NOT make it positive in its own
reference frame, and that it is NEGATIVE is B's reference frame.