> to follow this path of inquiry a little more, is it not lead-pipe blunt
> honesty to openly treat people as objects to be manipulated? and how,
> exactly, is 'treating people as other living beings like oneself'
> incompatible with 'treating people as objects to be manipulated'?
What's honest about it? You either treat people as objects or you don't. Some people do some people don't. I am not even sure choice comes into to a large degree.
The way you describe yourself does make you sound like you would be classified as having one or another of the personality disorders as defined by DSM-IV. Of course Aspergis (highfunctioning autistics) also tend to treat people as if they were objects.
Its a logical falicy to believe that acting in one's own interests also implies that you must treat other's as objects to be manipulated.