Re: buns vs brains

Alex Future Bokov (
Mon, 19 Jul 1999 11:07:05 -0400 (EDT)


Is it just me, or does Mr. Brains eventually see how pointless relationships are, and lose interest? A few months ago I've realized that every relationship I've ever been in has basically required that I surrender some of my individuality and autonomy. Even with women who call themselves 'objectivists' 'libertarians' 'feminists' 'career-minded' or 'tom-boys'. I always have very free-form friendships, where each individual has all the space they want, but it doesn't work the same way with romance.

Perhaps here too evolutionary psychology rears its ugly head. No matter what a woman's ideals are, regardless of whether she happens to be in the mood for Buns or Brains, there is this clingy little imperative inside her screaming 'Settle down! Grab a suitable mate and stake out your territory!'.

Mr. Celibate, ignore the peer pressure of the supposedly happy couples holding hands in the park. They (or at least the male halves of them) should (and maybe do) envy you.

A***o*e, you say? Oh no, that would be if I lied to myself and others, pretending to like co-dependency.

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