>If one has "obvious sexiness", then one is likely is demand.
Not necessarily. One might not *want* to be in demand. Being in demand
only means that the view is happy, not the author: such as being in demand
by sub-human criteria.
>And one can easily be very frustrated if unable to participate for
>whatever reason.
Ok. Individual choice. Although, perhaps the participation might be less
than it is cranked up to be.
>I agree here with Steve who said:
>>things like embarrassment, rejection, disease, alienation,
>>psychological warfare within couples ... If people talk about
>>variations on those things, I (e.g.) might overcome my squeemishness
>>and pay attention.
Sounds good. Keep talking.