deadbeat dads (was: Re: `capitalist' character values)

From: john grigg (
Date: Fri Jul 27 2001 - 23:50:04 MDT

Olga Bourlin shared with us:
Having worked my way through college ... and working, for some years as a
single parent, at a full-time job where I babysat another working woman's
children at night (in exchange for having my children babysat), rousing my
children from sleep to take them home at 2:15 a.m. in the morning (FYI, I
don't believe in alimony or child support on principle) ... and at another
time (children grown, but one still in college) having two full-time jobs
for over three years ... I know something about working and being
responsible. (This is not presented as argument, merely as background.)

Olga, since you made this statement onlist I will ask you publicly... WHY do
you not believe in child support on principle???

My own mother did not ask(or sue) my biological father thirty-three years
ago when he decided to walk away from his responsibilities. She felt it was
all "her responsibility" and did not want to "bother" him. My father should
have been VERY bothered and done his share no matter what! I am still very
angry about this. We knew poverty because of his cowardice and addiction to
the uninterrupted "good life." And my father had a good job, and no other
children to support. Personally, I am very happy to see how things have
changed since that time.

As a man I do believe some men really get taken to the cleaners in divorce
court. And for a woman to get alimony for more then a few years(to upgrade
her work skills) is generally rediculous. But, child support is about the
children and deadbeat dads make me want to grind my teeth in anger. Olga,
you and your children deserved better.



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