Some years ago, while at the laundromat, I saw a child--almost a pre-toddler really--who was "helping"-- as children by way of imitation often will--her nanny do the laundry. What made this noteworthy was that the child was VERY young--less than two years old-- and had coordination skills which were astonishing. Watching her move with deftness and deliberation gave the impression of an adult level of physical competence--like watching a perfectly proportioned miniature grown-up.
I asked the woman I thought was her mother but turned out to be her nanny, about her extraordinary coordination, and she explained that the parents had enrolled her in some sort of gynastics, conditioning, coordination-patterning, exercise program.
I also think of the stories of William Randolph Hearst and Orson Wells.
They were (1) doted on (lots and lots of emotional stroking), (2) never
told "no", and (3) told repeatedly (at least in the case of Oson Wells)
that they were "geniuses". What strikes me here--concerning specifically
(2) above-- is that there are mechanisms for self-inhibition which can
choke off the flow of creative and action-promoting abilities. When--and I
would suggest that it is highly atypical--such self-inhibition is avoided,
energy levels for creativity and action are much--what the limits are here
is a good question--enhanced. Point(s) number two: major emotional
nurturance w/feedback loop, minimal teaching of self-inhibition
(interesting point here: discipline is useful for two purposes (1) to
maintain focus, and (2) to avoid "wrong" action), and positive
self-definition. Restated: (1) motivation and energy potentiation, (2)
avoidance of energy strangulation, and (3) High and distinct self-definition.
Finally, there is fascination, which is the question of finding the things or things which so captivates the emergent mind that it will blissfully obsess on it till he/she keels over from lack of food or sleep. It would be useful to have a systematic way of finding this. Toylandia. Tool-landia. Infolandia.
As smarter folks than me have observed, our culture has created an
educational system to suit its commercial and idealogical requirements.
(Have you ever noticed that the row-and-column-everyone-facing-front
arrangement of chairs in a classrom is the only geometry that prevents all
other human contact than with the person at the front of the room?)
Contrary to the old saying, you can get any peg into any hole if you're
willing to use sufficient violence and tolerate some broken pegs. Keeping
your kids away from the educational establishment (the younger they are,
the more valuable this is) is not an EASY option, but I would suggest that
it may be a profoundly good one.
After that, give 'em love, give tools, and get out of their way. (Cliche or truism? You make the call.)
Best, Jeff Davis
"Everything's hard till you know how to do it." Ray Charles