Bluntness and Suaveness

From: Amara Graps (
Date: Mon Feb 14 2000 - 14:40:43 MST

From: "Robert J. Bradbury" <> Sun, 13 Feb 2000:

>I'm not always blunt. There is a suave, sophisticated, sincere,
>sweet side, but its usually reserved for short haired bruenettes
>of the opposite sex.

Cool. Nice technique, Robert. Clear, direct. Stating your preferences,
but not in an overwhelming way. I like it.

It reminds me of a bit of the Harry Browne "method", in his _How I
Found Freedom in an Unfree World_, in his chapter: "Freedom from
Social Restrictions." He was discussing how to state something
clear about yourself, but not in an imposing way.


Pg. 196:
"Good advertising isn't flashy or imposing. Simply learn to reveal your
qualities as they are appropriate to the situation. Let your differences
be brought out in conversation- without trying to demonstrate that
you're different.

I can give you a good example. For years, whenever it was appropriate in
conversations, lectures, and writing, I've casually mentioned one or
more things such as: "I'm single; I have no interest in governments, groups,
crusades, or religions; I'm crazy about opera and other forms of classical
music; I'm lazy and have learned to live with it and enjoy it; and I see
nothing wrong with being selfish.(1)

I'm never evangelical about these things. I simply let them be known,
one at a time, as appropriate."

(1) See how easy that was



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