On Tue, 5 Oct 1999 Delvieron@aol.com wrote:
> Meta-style....yeah, I like that, I like that a lot. You might use your
> personal style as your base, and then adapt from there to integrate with the
> styles in the social situation.
I suspect that a very very large majority of people are not up to this level of awareness. Many people are locked into the belief that they *are* who the represent themselves to be or who they are perceived to be. So if you insult or dislike that perception or representation, you are insulting or disliking *them*. It takes a significant insight to view oneself as the canvas and not as the painting. To view oneself as a canvas with a painting that adapts (in a creative fashion) to the individual(s) viewing the canvas, oh boy. That requires a *lot* of processing capacity and memory or experience (from which to draw memes for themes).
Kathryn's comment about adapting appearance to match context pointed out to me how aware some people are with regard to this. My awareness must be several levels below hers and I've been trained to be aware of such things! So when we talk about meta-styles with the average person on the street we are just *light-years* apart.