I half-agree with Eliezer and Lee. It's definitely a good idea to be able to look past other people's indelicacy in phrasing; we just disagree with how much effort we should make when originating speech.
I completely agree with Hal's
In my opinion, the best policy to follow is the maxim from computer protocol design: be conservative in what you send and be liberal in what you accept. That is, try not to take offense, but try not to give offense either.
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