Re: Grokking the Other (was: Re: Genderless societies)

Kathryn Aegis (
Tue, 14 Sep 1999 08:10:30

At 06:13 PM 9/13/99 +0000, you wrote:
>Well, several of my old galfriends know, because they switched. But I
>haven't got far in conversations with them about it. Guess you had to be

Gosh, Damien, it sounds like you have very discriminating taste! As well as a high level of security in your own identity. Please pat yourself on the back for me.

I actually just entered my own little experiment in 'grokking' the other--I'm growing my hair out. Now, this seems trivial, but it's fraught with social baggage. For over twenty years, I have cropped my hair in order to fight the faint possibility of being coopted into the social mores of the western feminine female. Now, well, I want to play with the notion of looking more 'normal' while publicly speaking about some of our wierd ideas.

But, as that hair grows out, I expect some things to happen, such as learning what it's like to move out of that blessed androgyny and into a more solid projection of the femme. It's harder to critique that when you're a part of it, and maybe I will gain some deeper respect for those who prefer it.

Kathryn Aegis