Re: Responsibility for children / Info Please

From: Michael S. Lorrey (retroman@turbont.net)
Date: Mon Sep 18 2000 - 11:41:33 MDT


ankara wrote:
>
> Dear List Members
>
> Some of these posts are disturbing - I cannot descern sarcasm from factual
> statement; the women from the righteous males. In short, I cannot believe
> what I'm reading.
>
> As a human who happens to reside in female form, I am most interested in
> your personal pov on forced-pregnancy and abortion. Perhaps you would be
> willing to share your feelings and experiences:
> 1. Do you think a female should be forced to endure every pregnancy?

I don't think a female should be forced to get pregnant. Anything else that
happens is a result of either consensus decisions between her and the male
involved, or a negotiated settlement or ruling enforced by courts if complete
consensus is not reached prior to conception. Note that while two people may be
consensual about having sex, they very likely have not reached a consensus about
what to do for the next 18 years if she gets pregnant.

> 2. If so, what should happen to them, that is, mother and child?
> 3. Do you support absolute dominion over one's own body?

Sure, but a pregancy does not involve just one body. You are dealing, in fact,
with three bodies (at a minimum), and any woman so callous as to totally
disregard the rights and concerns of the other two very likely would be a very
poor candidate for motherhood anyways, not to mention for being human, but of
course, there is a matter of context/circumstances, etc.

> 4. As a female, would you terminate an untimely pregnancy?

Since I'm not, I don't have to worry about that, as a female. As a male, I've
already once been through an experience where a girlfriend got pregnant, did not
tell me, went off and got an abortion, and I did not hear about it for a couple
years from a third party. We broke up before I found out, for likely the same
reasons she got the abortion: She was an extremely selfish, self-centerd,
materialistic woman. When I later found out what she did, I cannot say I was at
all surprised, though I was rather bothered by what she did.



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