>> It might help you to think in terms of multiple equilibria in a game
>> in game theory. In a game it is important to coordinate each player's
>> expectations regarding what others will do with actual action choices.
>This is to sneak in the assumption that the rules of the game include
>the social norms. In that case, certainly knowing your opponents
>available choices and likely coices and payoffs is necessary to win
>the game. But the "rules" of the game of life are not constrained by
>society, only by the nature of reality. To play a fair game unbound
>by the shackles of convention requires learning the rules of reality,
>not the rules of society.
You're setting a false dichotomy here. Society is quite "real" and unless
you think you can single-handedly change the rules of society, they are part